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<\/a><\/p>\nThere were now only 3 hours left for us to be together. During these hours, we still needed to do his laundry, make his lunches, go to Mass and eat dinner. Then, he would be leaving again. During our brief time together, I tried to be extra kind.<\/p>\n
Fish!\u00a0 Oh, no, why did this fish incident happen now?\u00a0 I tried to bite my tongue and not criticize him, but the words came tumbling out. He was using his bare hands to scoop up the dead fish from the tank. Then, with the fish in his hands, he walked towards the kitchen while fish water dripped onto our carpet. “Ahhhh!”\u00a0 I yelled.\u00a0\u00a0 “You are making a mess on the carpet!\u00a0 And do not put that dead fish in the kitchen!\u00a0 Ahhh!\u00a0 What are you doing?”\u00a0 With a man’s grin on his face, he continued with his plan, and disposed of the dead fish in a plastic bag.<\/p>\n
With 10 minutes left before he had to leave, I was hoping for some “cuddle time”.\u00a0 But not with fishy hands!\u00a0 Again, my words spouted out, “Wash your hands with soap.”\u00a0 After his short, cursory 10 second wash, I bellowed “Please, wash your hands again.”\u00a0 And sing the ABC song! When you are finish singing the song, your hands will be clean.” To my surprise, I heard his strong, silly voice singing the A, B, C’s.\u00a0 His humor had saved the moment.\u00a0 We both began laughing at the absurdity of a grown man singing the ABC’s while washing his hands.\u00a0 Yippee, I thought! His hands are clean! Now, before he gets back on the road, we can enjoy some more cuddle time.<\/p>\n Have you had a time when you wanted to have some special moments with your spouse?\u00a0 With your kids?\u00a0 Did everything flow smoothly or were there glitches along the way?\u00a0 What\u00a0 might help you to have those special times together?\u00a0 Below are traits which establishes a foundation for a healthy marriage and a stable, strong family.\u00a0 If these traits are modeled and practiced in your home, special moments with your spouse &\/or your children can easily flow.<\/p>\n The Family Strengths Framework identifies 6 main traits which enhances the strength and stability of a family.\u00a0 These are also applicable for your marriage as well.\u00a0 These 6 attributes are:\u00a0 Appreciation and Affection, Positive Communication, Spiritual Well-Being, Commitment, Enjoyable Time Together <\/b>and the Ability to Manage Stress and Crisis<\/b> (DeFrain et al, 2006).<\/p>\n \u00b7\u00a0Appreciation & Affection <\/b>– caring for each other, friendship, respect for individuality, playfulness & humor<\/p>\n \u00b7 Positive Communication <\/b>– giving compliments, sharing feelings, avoiding blame, being able to compromise, agreeing to disagree<\/p>\n \u00b7\u00a0Spiritual Well-Being<\/b> – hope, faith, compassion, shared ethical values, oneness with humankind<\/p>\n \u00b7 Commitment <\/b>– trust, honesty, dependability, faithfulness, sharing<\/p>\n \u00b7\u00a0Enjoyable Time Together<\/b> – quality time in great quantity, good things take time, enjoying each others company, simple good times, sharing fun times<\/p>\n \u00b7\u00a0Ability to Manage Stress & Crisis<\/b> – adaptability, seeing crises as challenges & opportunities, growing through crises together, openness to change, resilience<\/p>\n Which of these qualities do you have in your family?\u00a0 Which new ones do you want to bring into your family’s life?\u00a0 Can you have a family meeting and discuss ways to implement these attributes?<\/p>\n For our precious 4 hours together, my hubby and I showed one another appreciation and affection, communicated our ideas, showed compassion, shared our faith and despite the death of a pet fish, we did enjoy our simple, short time of being together!<\/p>\n By Mary Pepper, guest blogger, www.HealthyRelationships101.com<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n